My teen only talks to his computer. How can I get my teen to talk to me?
What do you have in common? We need to find out what we have in common with our children. Because right now they are captivated on the computer because they don’t see anything else that’s more exciting.
So as a parent, that gives us a creative opportunity of what can we do to be more exciting to engage our children. So one, is again we are back to communication. Look for avenues and opportunities to spend more time. What’s lacking is there’s not enough bond, so our children look for other outlets. So family time is so crucial.
We have to create that relationship where spending time with our parents, our family is just as important. Not more, not less, from a teenager’s point of view. If we tell our teenager, prioritise, your family is more important than the computer, that’s very very challenging. So neither do we want the computer to be more important than the family.
So the idea here is engaging. So if we can create, most teenagers love outings, and for boys, opportunities to go out for meals, that’s the only time your teenager will switch off his computer, because his stomach is calling for him. And then the relationship that we have, again what we tend to do as parents, when we have alone time with our children is to start interrogating, we start scrutinising. So between that and the computer, anyone will choose the computer.